Type 2 active galactic nuclei (AGN) are by definition nuclei in which the broad-line region and continuum light are hidden at optical/UV wavelengths by dust. Via accurate registration of infrared (IR) Very Large Telescope adaptive optics images with optical Hubble Space Telescope images we unambiguously identify the precise location of the nucleus of a sample of nearby, type 2 AGN. Dust extinction maps of the central few kpc of these galaxies are constructed from optical-IR colour images, which allow tracing the dust morphology at scales of few pc. In almost all cases, the IR nucleus is shifted by several tens of pc from the optical peak and its location is behind a dust filament, prompting to this being a major, if not the only, cause of the nucleus obscuration. These nuclear dust lanes have extinctions AV ≥ 3 - 6 mag, sufficient to at least hide the low-luminosity AGN class, and in some cases are observed to connect with kpc-scale dust structures, suggesting that these are the nuclear fueling channels. A precise location of the ionized gas Hα and [Si VII] 2.48 μ coronal emission lines relative to those of the IR nucleus and dust is determined. The Hα peak emission is often shifted from the nucleus location and its sometimes conical morphology appears not to be caused by a nuclear - torus - collimation but to be strictly defined by the morphology of the nuclear dust lanes. Conversely, [Si VII] 2.48 μ emission, less subjected to dust extinction, reflects the truly, rather isotropic, distribution of the ionized gas. All together, the precise location of the dust, ionized gas and nucleus is found compelling enough to cast doubts on the universality of the pc-scale torus and supports its vanishing in low-luminosity AGN. Finally, we provide the most accurate position of the NGC 1068 nucleus, located at the south vertex of cloud B.